I'm not a psychologist or a therapist, and I've never done any research on this subject. I write about this, because I know what works for me, and every individual out there is different, and has his or her way of doing things...opinions, etc.
But, this article is not necessarily about humor...it's about sharing and giving.
* There are those who give more than they take.
* There are those who take more that they give.
* And, there are those who take and never give back at all. And, for this group,
they could never understand what in the world I'm talking about.
For, it's the people who give of themselvs, who will understand what I am talking about. For example:
How many times have you given a child a present at Christmas or for his or her bithday, and as you watch that child open that gift...the big smile on the child's face...and the warm, feel good feeling you get all over, from watching the reaction to the gift you gave.
There's no difference in humor! I get that same warm, feel good feeling all over when I put a smile on someone's face, and it's especially gratifying when I can make the person more than smile; laugh; or hold their sides with laughter. Then, I know I have accomplished my mission for the day.
More than anyone else, mothers and fathers of young children can relate to what I'm talking about. Examples: When their child says the first word; takes that first step; rides the first bicycle, etc. The satisfaction and gratification is like no other...that warm, feel good feeling associated with it all. Do all these wonderful feelings help you to cope with what life has to offer you...of course they do!
All of us are teachers and students in our own way. At any given time, we're always teaching somebody something, and, at the same time, we're always learning from somebody. Aside from the parents, I think the group that would most understand what I'm talking about would be the school teachers. And, that's because they get great satisfaction and gratification from seeing the students faces light up and those wonderful smiles, when they learn a math problem; read their first sentence or paragraph, or know the answer to a question, or pass a test. And, I think that's why school teachers do what they do...they share and give all their lives. And, the gratification they get from their students cannot be measured in dollars or anything else....and the reaction and gratification many times is immediate!
But, everyone out there in the workplace and in society share and give in there own way. For example;
* What in the world would we do without all the farmers and ranchers; and food processors that put food on the table for us to enjoy and, of course to survive.
* How about all the truck drivers and delivery people that haul all the goods for us. For those of you who may remember the truckers strike in the 1970's, and it was dreadful, wasn't it? It didn't take long before the shelves in the grocery store began to empty out...and that was scary, too!
* How about all the artists; craftspeople and writers who entertain and inform us.
Would you miss your daily newspaper? Watching a movie? How about all those wonderful art and craft pieces decorating your home and office?
* Do we owe a thanks to all the refuse/garbage/sewage people who haul all the trash away to protect us from desease that is spread from rodents and insects...I think we do.
* How about the brilliant minds of engineers, who have done so much for all of us in so many different areas. The computer we all have a passion for; our websites would not be possible if it were not for engineers and computer scientists; the civil engineers who build the highways; bridges we all travel on to make a living and to go on vacation. And, all the engineers and technical people who have designed appliances; toys; tools, etc., to make our lives happier and easier..
I worked for a large engineering company (35,000 employees) for over ten years, and, when you take some pretty impersonal and cold objects like copper wire; resistors; silicon; solder...these things don't mean much by themselves. But, when these objects are put together, it's a different story.
Over the ten years I worked there, we put things together to help control flooding in the Mississippi River valley; lightning research; test equipment to do research on earthquakes and hurricanes; for the defense of the country; noise control; the space shuttle; and all of this was done for a better life for all of us, and I always thought of it that way.
* How about all the people who make all the yummies to make our lives happier.
All the bakery goods delicious candies and treats for us all, etc.
* How about all the people in real estate and in the housing and apartment business that provide shelter for us.
* Of course, we can't thank our educator's enough for teaching us to read and to write, and to do math and science problems, which has helped us to go on to
make a better life for ourselves and our children and grandchildren.
* I think it's fair that all of us have a favorite sport...baseball; football; tennis; golf, etc. The sporting events that have made us all happy...the olympics; The Super Bowl; The World Series; the Indy 500; and to all the people who put these events together for our enjoyment
* All the people in the entertainment and music industry. This world would be pretty drab without them, wouldn't it?
* Our pets give us such joy and companionship for so many years; how about all the people connected in this industry that give us so much joy.
* Oviously the medical profession, and the people who work in it, have provided us health care and take care of us all.
* The people in transportation; airlines; taxis; buses; trains; help us get to where we're going.
* All the retailers and distributers who sell and distribe the clothes; and essentials we all need to survive and for a better life.
* All the people in the construction industry, who build the house or apartment we live in; our office building or small business and all the highways and byways we all travel on.
* All the people in the service industry;..financial; haircutting; laundry, law enforcement; firefighters, who are on just about on every corner, helping to make our lives better.
* Everyone in the government, who are working to make the government work, and put our taxes to work for the benefit of all.
* Being a parent is forever...which is the toughest job in the world...worry...sacrifice...sharing and giving...struggling to make ends meet in many cases.
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How many times have you donated blood; given money for a worthy cause or did some volunteer work. You got that warm, feel good feeling, didn't you? Didn't it help you deal with the ups and down life has brought you...especially the downs?
So, the point in all this, is the fact that there are many, many people throughout the nation, who are sharing and giving of themselves in their own way, to make a better life for all of us.
There's no difference in what I do. My "thing" jest happens to be in the field of humor. There's only one big difference, in that, being in humor, my gratification in making someone smile or laugh is in real time, and it is immediate! I don't have to wait for that apple to grow; that highway to be finished; or for the goods to be hauled.
So, maybe I should not have chosen the title for this piece to be;
"How Humor Helps Me To Cope."
Instead, maybe, I should have entitled this piece...
"How Sharing and Giving Helps Us All To Cope."