I don't think it matters if a person gets a promotion at work, wins an award, receives some nice flowers from a loved one at work, bus a house; completes a degree, etc., chances are that the individual could be the victim of the ugly face of jealousy and/or resentment from a few negative people of hate around them!
Nobody has cornered the market on hate...it's open to everyone! The "little minds of the world," as I like to call them, seem to be in so many places doing their damage! And, it doesn't matter what field you're in...business; politics; entertainment; education; medicine; student; co-workers; family; in-laws, etc. In my view, you can expect negative people to come out of the woodwork, at any given time, in any given profession!
For many years, I have been a wood carver, and I've participated in over 40 arts and crafts shows all around the state of New Mexico (where I live). And, I have sold my work at a few shops and galleries around the state as well. Because of this, I rarely ever talk about my work, and I pretty much keep everything to myself, because I know what will happen! Jealousy...resentment...will come out of the woodwork from those around me.
A few years ago, I got a telephone call from a writer at the local morning newspaper. She was calling to see if I would be interested in her doing a story on my wood work. At the time, I had never done anything like this, so I gladly accepted. We agreed for her to come over a couple of days later, and we had a nice chat for about an hour, and I showed her samples of my work, and she took a few pictures.
At the time, I was working for an engineering company (about 100 employees), for about six years, and as I said earlier, I rarely ever talk about my work with others. So, the people at work, didn't know anything about what was going on with the article that was to appear in the newspaper in a few days, etc. About two days after the interview with the newspaper writer, I was as nervous as could be, and the half-page story came out in the newspaper, which is New Mexico's largent newspaper. I was pleased about how the article and photos looked.
But, it was when I reported to work that awful morning, was when my nightmare began! I was astonished by how I was treated by fellow-employees, who saw the article in the newspaper, and it didn't take long to get the cold shoulder! All day long, people were distant from me! I felt like I had leprosy or some contagious disease! I was appalled at what I was seeing and feeling! A few people were just down-right rude to me, and a few others were hateful to me and told me to go talk to a reporter!
I felt empty and hollow all morning long, and this turned out to be one of the worst days of my life! My mistake at the time, is that I should have left work a noon...and not stayed all day to be punished by the 'little minds of the world!" I had done my woodwork for about ten years at the time, and it was featured in the newspaper, and THIS is what I got for all my troubles? Hate! Trying to make a name for myself in the art world...and THIS is what I get? There were a couple of people who were nice and complemtary to me...which helped to ease the pain, but I didn't expect anything like this.
I would have never done the story, if I had known the reaction of the fellow-employees would have been like this...never! I should have left work at noon, but like an idiot, I stayed for the entire day. This day had to be one of my worst and longest days, and I was glad when it was over!
For me, the question was if this ever happened to me again, that is, have the opportunity to have my work featured in a newspaper or magazine, what will I do? At the time, I had no idea.
About three yhears went by, and again, I was called by a writer at the newspaper, and he wanted to do a story on my work. Over the past three years, I had plenty of time to think about it, so the decision was easy. I told the newspaper writer that I would be happy to do the story! I remembered that awful day like it was yesterday, which was so painful for me! This would be my opportunity for pay-back...and I couldn't wait. The writer and I made arrangements to get together that week. A couple of days later, he came over and we had a nice time, and he also took a few pictures to go with the story.
THIS TIME I WOULD BE READY FOR THE PEOPLE AT WORK...
I still worked at the same company, and there were pretty much the same people working there as three years before. I was NOT going to let the "little minds of the world," ruin my confidence and my life! I was NoT going to let them dictate what I should do and not do with my life! As three years before, the story came out in the morning newspaper. But this time, I went to work standing tall, and I felt good about my decision to do the story. Last time, I got ambushed, but this time...it would be different. I couldn't wait...it was MY turn!
That morning when I went to work as usual, and nobody talked to me, and I talked to nobody, and that's the way I wanted it. I was proud of what I had just done, that is, have the courage to go back into the snake's den...but it wasn't easy to do. This was MY day, and my feelings were a lot different than they were three years before. This time, I was ready for this bunch! But, the sad thing remained...it would never be the same at work again...never! All of this jealousy and hate over a couple of articles in the newspaper? I couldn't believe it! But, this was the problem of the negative people of hate, not mine! Going back to work that morning, turned out to be one of my proudest moments!
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One morning, I was driving to work and I was listening to a talk show on the radio. The guest on the show, was a long time broadcast reporter, from one of the networks, where she had worked for over 30 years. (Leslie Stahl/60 minutes) And, during the interview, she told the audience about..when she would visit one of the affiliate television stations outside of New York, she would make TEN enemies as soon as she walked in the door!
I couldn't imagine what she was talking about, and I was anxious to know why. Leslie has been a very successful woman; she has been a successful woman in a man's world; she is famous; she makes a lot of money; at 50 or 60-something, she is very attractive and sexy; she's well liked and popular; and I've loved her over the last thirty years! And, she said, in so many words, there are so many people who cross her path who are jealous; resentful and hateful toward her! Asked what she could do about the problem? She told the interviewer, that she couldn't do anything about the problem...except that she can't please everyone...and so she doesn't try!