Here's a $64,000 question for you. What's the difference, in effort and in time, does it take to tell a clean joke, as opposed to telling a dirty joke? There is none as far as I'm concerned. So, why do people tell dirty jokes? The Internet is filled with them, so they must have an audience. Is it macho? Is it peer-pressure? I don't have the answer, and I'm sure a psychologist will have opinions on the subject, but the opinions aren't necessary because most of us would probably not understand them anyway, and dirty humor will be with us until the end of time. All we can do is to deal with it the best we can. There is always going to be the, "little minds of
the world," around as I like to call them!
I've been in the humor business for over 50 years, and I can say that a person doesn't have to be dirty to be funny. Jokesters who resort to telling dirty jokes and using dirty humor, may think they're funny, but they're not. They are only hurting themselves. They're image and reputation are tarnished immediately...that's if they care about their image and reputation!
Any person who goes so low, as to tell you a dirty joke, or uses racial slurs of any kind...doesn't have much respect for you in the first place, so why would you want this person around you? A delicate situation comes into play around the work place, where you have to get along with others. The dirty humor may be coming from your boss, and now you have to decide how to handle it. He or she's got the authority and you don't. Not an easy situation.
I'll share with you a few things that I do, when an unwanted jokester comes into my life.
* Tell the jokester, "I don't appreciate your humor," or lack of it...and walk away! If it's a
fellow-employee, who you have to tolerate, just try to ignore him.
* If a person ever tells you a dirty joke, or uses dirty humor...what ever you do...DON'T smile or
laugh! That's what the person wants. A joke is not complete without a laugh! Leave the
jokester standing there without the laugh that never comes. By doing this, the jokester may
never return again, because he did not get the laugh he was looking for in the first place.
* One of the best tools to use for the jokester, is to say nothing at all. Don't get into a joke-a-thon with him! Remember, when your mother used to give you that cold, hard, piercing look when you did something wrong as a kid? I've seen plenty of those looks out of my mother! It is said that a picture is worth 1,000 words, so give the jokester a "picture" of your best cold, hard, piercing look, which I think should work and get the message across.
* If the jokester had told you a few clean jokes in the past to get your trust...but now he tells you a dirty joke and catches you off-guard with a dirty joke...BUST it up quickly! Don't let him finish! Look at your watch...as if time as gotten away from you...and you have a meeting in a couple of minutes! By doing this, you have busted up the timing and delivery of the jokester, leaving him with his mouth open as you tell him...SEE YA!
Humor has always been near and dear to my heart, and it is too bad that there has to be negative humor, but there is...and we all have to deal with it in our own way, etc. And, it's not easy, especially if it's a family member or a co-worker or your boss, etc. But, take a stand...be decisive...put the jokester in his place and you'll feel better about yourself for doing so. You don't need these people around you!