"When I was diagnosed with Lupus, a new door opened for me. I decided I could not lie down and let life pass me by, while I felt sorry for myself. All of a sudden, I had so many dreams that were only dreams. I wanted to live to see these dreams come true. The fear of failure was gone, and new appreciation for life was diveloped. Once the fear of failure was gone, and a new appreciation for life was developed. Once the fear of failure was gone, my talent blossomed and I found many doors open for me. I have found the magic in life of taking my dreams and weaving them into my reality. If only others realized how easy this can be!"
Thank you Sherry for that inspiring story.
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The word "courage" is a word we hear little about these days. But, from the time we were tots, courage has played a large part in growing up. For example: Learning to walk; potty-training; riding your first bike, as you wobbled down the street and afraid to fall off; starting school, etc. How about your first date...remember that? It took a little courage to do all of these things.
Courage: (definition) The attitude of facing and dealing with anything recognized as dangerous, difficult or painful, instead of withdrawing from it.
* It takes courage to start a family, with all the responsibility that goes with it.
* It takes courage to switch jobs.
* It takes courage to build a website and show your work to the world.
* It takes courage to join the military and serve your country.
* It takes courage to move out of town away from your family
* And, it takes courage to participate in an arts and crafts fair, to show and/or sell your
work, having overcome the fear of rejection and failure.
I was born, and still reside reside in Albuquerque, New Mexico (USA). The state is blessed with thousands of talented artists and craftspeople. As a woodcarver, I participated in over forty arts and crafts shows all over the state, and I have promoted six of my own. Diring this time, I have seen so many wonderful and talented artists produce sensational pieces in so many different mediums. But, there are so many talented artists who will never get to the point of showing and/or selling their work Why?
Because they have "stage fright," and a fear of going out before the public, and the fear of rejection and/or failure. This is a big problem for some people. This isn't like a salesman selling insurance. These people make their own work with their own original ideas, and they use their mind and hands to produce it. If they get rejected by the public or fail, the pain runs deep!
The individual has to find the courage to get out there and show and/or sell their work. A suggestion I give people is to do what I did. I took a few of my wood carvings to the flea market and just showed them (no selling). This way, I tried to get comfortable with large crowds of hundreds or thousands of people, etc. I also got a reaction to my work, which was important to me. I also got to see for myself, which pieces were getting the attention, and which pieces were not.
It worked out great for me, and I didn't have the pressure of participating in a large show in a fancy hotel or a convention center, etc. As I went to the flea market a few times, my confidence level went up and I didn't have as much stage fright as I did before. By the time I was ready to participate in a real arts and crafts show, I was ready...well, sort of.
While I was going to the flea market to show my work, I was invited to participate in a show on the plaza in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Tourists from all over the world come to Santa Fe each your. I didn't know if I was ready for this or not. I didn't know if I had the courage to do it! For my first show, I wanted to find a little show, behind a church someplace with a few hundred people attending. But no, I had to choose Santa Fe to get started. I must have been crazy!
Just before the deadline to cancel to get my entry fee back, I almost cancelled! I was very nervous and I didn't I have the courage to do it. But, to make a long story short, somehow I found the courage to participate, and for my first show, I did okay...as far as sales and nerves were concerned. Doing the first of anything is always the toughest, and I was relieved when the show was over. I then went on to participate in over forty more shows around the state. So, I can understand why people have a fear of failure; stage fright and have the jitters and are nervous about participating in public. I've been there...I've done that!
Many years ago, I was the founder and director of the Fiesta of Arts and Crafts. (Art in the Park), which was held in Albuquerque, New Mexico. (where I live) During the six shows, I had the privilege of meeting some of the most talented artists and craftspeople from all over the state. During one of our shows there was a woman named Jean, who called me one day, and I'll share this story with which I think was great.